Who is in control?

I woke up today with a weird thought, you are not in control....
At first I was like what? of course I am, I am in control of my life, the decisions I make, I am the one that decides where I am going to go next and what I am going to do next... Then I kept thinking how much of a lie that is, because while I am able to make my own decisions, while I am able to say hey I am going to go left rather than going right, I cannot possibly control the outcome of my decisions, yes I can do whatever I want but in the end I am not really in control of the outcome.
Some people will say that God is in control, this force that they believe in, the almighty and powerful, the one that sees it all, whether or not that being exists is up for debate among many people, most will argue that he exists because there is a book that specifically tells stories of his existence, a book that speak his words and what he intended for us to do.  It is a weak argument to state that a being of that nature exists only because a book says so... yeah the book is too many years old but that just means that someone somewhere along the lines made sure that it was passed on and kept in a way that part of it (because what the churches have in that book is not all of it) was saved enough to move masses of people in one direction, to give people something to believe in.
Personally I don't know if God exists or not, I don't know if it is a God or Goddess, I don't know if it is just a plain ball of energy or just a spirit, I choose to believe though that there is something greater, and this something greater is not good or bad, but has the capability of guiding us towards whatever it is that deep inside we truly want, that which we don't tell anybody, that which we don't even realize that we want.  And within that thought I am fully aware that it might be a fallacy, that there might be absolutely nothing else out there guiding us, that this is all we are and that there is nothing greater than us.  Most people won't consider those thoughts, they are afraid because one book says to them that this supreme being does exist and therefore they are to follow the spirit's words, so a lot do, they read the words and they go on their life pretending that they are doing everything exactly the way it was intended, reading the Bible every night and going to church every Sunday.  I don't read the Bible, I don't believe those words come straight from this higher being, I think they came from a group of men trying to explain their existence, trying to figure out what is right and what is wrong, a book of stories that started the rules of society, rules that have the power to change because society as a whole changes every year, with every new discovery, with every new generation we all grow and change our views even in a small amount, no matter who you are.
But back to who is in control... If there is a supreme being that watches us all and that knows what is best for us and guides us into that path, that same being cannot make us go to that path, we can see all the signs, we can go through all the motions, we can do exactly what we are told, that being can come down and say if you go right you will encounter chaos so please go left and we can still choose to go right instead of left so the being is not truly in control just as much as we are not, because yes we can also say we are going to go left and follow the path that is given to us but when we go left someone else decided that they were not going to go through the path they were given and suddenly they cause chaos in our path.
Because of all the variants in life, because we are truly not alone even when we think we are, we are not in control of anything, we have power over absolutely nothing, I know some people will look at this and think hey you know what that is the most negative way of seeing life, that just takes away from the things you want, if we are not in control then what is the point to keep going? Wanting to be in control of everything is where the negativity come from, why? because it's a fallacy, we are not in control, and when we believe we are and things don't go our way then we get upset and we get stressed out.  A good example of that is time, the idea that we can control time merely by measuring it, so we wake up at a certain time everyday because we have to be at work or school or start our day by a certain time so then we give ourselves every day a list of things we have to do and every day we say this is what I will accomplish today, I am in control and I can do it.  But then it so happens that even though the day before everything seemed fine and everything was going according to plan your kid wakes up and he/she is sick, suddenly the to-do-list has one more thing that needs to be added to it, either you have to take care of your child during the day which might also mean you have to take them to the doctor and so the whole list changes, things are added that will take time away from the day and others will just not get accomplished, why? because on your way to the doctor there was an accident and you got stuck in traffic, then the doctor woke up late, because even though the doctor does not have any children of their own, they cannot control the fact that even though they wanted to get to work on time and attend to their patients in a timely manner, their power went out in the middle of the night and their alarm clock did not go off because it was reset and now it had the wrong time.
We are in control of nothing except our own thoughts.  There is a quote by Rene Descartes: "Except for our own thoughts, there is nothing absolutely in our power." I guess that is where I am getting at, we can try all we want, we can tell ourselves all we want that we have the power to make things happen the exact way we want them to happen, the fallacy with that thought is that there are a lot of other factors in play, we don't live in a world where we are the only ones that exist, there is not just other human beings but there are also other living things that can affect our lives, whether it is in a very small way or in a big way; to add to that we have other forces, natural forces that come into play and can change anything we do in a matter of seconds.
So are we really in control? No, we are not and the sooner we accept this, the more aware of it we become, the less stressful our lives will be, because if we are not really in control of anything then when things don't go our way, it is not our fault, it is not anyone's fault, it's just the way things are, and there is no reason to stress over it, there is no reason to get upset, only a reason to smile and then keep on going because the next step you take might not go the way you want it, but it might turn out to be the best thing that happened.