I am getting ready to take a trip and while packing I started adding certain things that I might probably not need during my trip so I realized why women are thought to over pack for a trip...
Wanna know why it seems like women over pack when they go on a trip?
1. We not only have to have one outfit per day of the trip, we also have to make sure the shoes match the outfit.
2. Even if we can get outfits for every single day that we will be on the trip to match with one pair of shoes, we always think: "mmm maybe I should take another pair and another "type" of outfit just in case we do something different that will require a different attire."
3. after we have gather an outfit for each day and its matching under garments, plus shoes, and the additional outfit, we tend to think: "mmm maybe one of the days I will not feel like wearing this particular outfit so maybe I should take two more just to make sure that I have enough choices just in case I don't want to wear one of the other outfits I have picked out."
4. Most women, I don't do this, but most women have to accessorize, you have the outfit and you gotta get the matching scrunchie, headband, jewelry, and whatever else they think that is needed to "make" the entire outfit look amazing.
5. Once we have the outfits figured out, now we have to add hair and beauty products. This one is a tricky one, you have at least 5 different types of brushes only for the hair, then you have the makeup, the hair dryer, the straightening iron, the shampoo, the conditioner, the body wash, the face wash, the moisturizer; some women also have the gel and the hair spray and the oils for their hair to get it straight faster.
6. After all this we have to add all the additional items that we might or might not need, for example one of my moms will travel with her hair cutting scissors (you never know who might need a haircut); then you have blankets (cause maybe the hotel you are staying at does not have enough); towels (why use the ones in the hotel?); computer, at least one movie, one book (just in case the vacation gets boring); additional bag or purse (because one is not enough); snacks (cause we can't wait to gain that vacation weight), and whatever else that might come to mind that will be needed at some point.
After all of this, how can anyone possibly expect a woman to leave her house with just one small luggage bag?
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Sunday, June 10, 2012
My view on abortion
I know the abortion subject is one that is very controversial, I am not writing to judge anyone or say anything bad about any body; I am simply writing to express my view on the subject.
Recently I have been reading a lot about abortion and about how wrong it is, how it should be considered murder to have an abortion. On the other hand I hear how it is a woman's choice and it should always be her choice, I mean no matter what it ends up being our bodies that go through the pregnancy and labor.
I have also read many people say that taking contraceptives should not be allowed, that insurance companies should not cover them because they go against what we were put in this earth to do, which is procreate.
I recently read someone that posted something that caught my attention, she said "I believe God gives us all life, should we continue to challenge him on when life begins?". This thought makes an interesting point, and one that people don't really think about. I am not a church goer nor do I read the Bible (I have my own views on that,maybe one day I will share those views with everyone), I do however believe in one source of energy, one supreme being that has to have created us, I mean we would like to think that we were all created from energy and that is all great and what not but where did that energy come from? it has to have a source. Call him or her God, or Goddess, or as I like to call it: Holy Spirit, for the purpose of this I will call him God, and I would like to say my view on this whole issue by answering that small question above.
I believe God created us with many purposes, one of them was to procreate, yes he made a woman and a man and each of us has things the other one needs in order to create a life. Most believe in what we have come accustomed to call free will (I love those two little words), that means we can choose what we want to do with our lives, that means a woman has a choice right?
Well, let's keep going then, when it comes to contraceptives: God created us, modern science has found a way to keep the general population of the world in some sort of control, back when there were only less than a third of the people that are currently living in this world, there was no form of birth control other than abstinence, back then people needed to be born so guess what God made it so that we could not find a way to not procreate, I mean had we had oral contraceptives back then more than likely the world would not be as heavily populated as it is right now, therefore this powerful being made it so that we would not figure out how to stop ourselves from procreating when we wanted to have sexual intercourse with our partners. I mean having sex is a natural thing, is something that men and women both want at some point in their lives and is something we enjoy, if we didn't we would not do it and there would be no need for contraceptives would it?
So, now we have discovered how to enjoy sex without the fear of getting pregnant, let's face it now a days most people don't have the time or the money needed to have more than 2 children, there are lots more things involved, women now work outside the home because two salaries are needed due to the fact that the cost of living has gone up, mostly due to so many people living in this planet; so here is what God did, he gave the idea to someone and allow them to find a way to still be able to have sex without having to add more people to society like it once was. Think about that for one second, if this all mighty God would have wanted us to continue procreating like bunnies, then we would not have found a way to not do it, would we?
This takes me back to that beautiful question and makes me ask myself: are we really challenging God when a woman has an abortion, are we challenging him as to when life really begins? Scientifically a fetus that is 20 weeks old cannot survive outside the womb, mommy is needed for the baby to survive, at 24 weeks the chances of survival are about 2% to 3%, as the baby keeps growing the chances of the fetus surviving become higher; if this supreme being that is God, the one that decides when life begins, had decided that life begins with the first heartbeat then wouldn't the chances of the baby surviving if a woman had it at 19 weeks of pregnancy be 100%? I mean right about now I am seeing it this way: The first few weeks of pregnancy the baby can't survive outside the utero, it cannot survive without being inside the mother's womb, so wouldn't that be God letting us make the choice as to whether we wanted to or not have that baby? wouldn't that be God giving us a chance to see whether we were ready or not to become a mom? Now I am not saying use abortion as a means of contraception, God has allowed us to find a way to enjoy our sexual pleasures without having to bring a life into the world when we don't feel we are yet ready, now this brief period of time when baby is not able to live outside mom's body I am seeing as: if that 1% chance of getting pregnant happened then I have the choice on whether or not I am ready to become a mom, every mom out there knows how hard it is to bring a child to the world, to raise them and provide for them, and yes some will say well that's easy just don't have sex until you get married or don't have sex unless you are willing to get pregnant or have sex and if it happened it is because God wanted that, well I say to them:
1. People are not gonna stop having sex, it is fun and unfortunately people enjoy it way too much to give it up, God made us that way.
2. God has allowed us to take care of ourselves and enjoy ourselves, otherwise we would have never found a way to try and prevent pregnancy.
3. God has already told us when life begins, life begins when a baby is able to survive outside mommy's body, when that chance of survival hits 1% that is when life begins, until then it has not yet begun, and I am a witness to this because 9 years ago my sister's mother, whom I call mom too because she has become like a mother to me in the recent years, had complications with her pregnancy, she went into labor when she was about 20 or 21 weeks pregnant, they tried to keep the baby inside as long as they could, finally a week or so went by and they had to deliver the baby. Mom almost died, and the baby had a 1% survival rate, the doctors all said she was not going to make it, but guess what? she did, she is alive and well today, the road was not an easy one but God decided that she would survive, God had bigger plans for that baby and bigger plans for mom.
So see, are we really challenging God as to when a life begin? I don't think so, there are many reasons why a woman might seek an abortion, again I am not here to judge any of them, they are all allowed to make their choice, whether they decide to have a child or not should be up to them, not anyone else, they should not be judged there is only ONE that will judge us all and we should leave that job only to him.
I am a mom and I am also a woman, I am not saying I would or wouldn't have an abortion, I am saying that given the circumstances I should be allowed to make that decision for myself and if we are going to include God in this dilemma, well, I believe God has giving us a small period of time where we can make that choice.
Recently I have been reading a lot about abortion and about how wrong it is, how it should be considered murder to have an abortion. On the other hand I hear how it is a woman's choice and it should always be her choice, I mean no matter what it ends up being our bodies that go through the pregnancy and labor.
I have also read many people say that taking contraceptives should not be allowed, that insurance companies should not cover them because they go against what we were put in this earth to do, which is procreate.
I recently read someone that posted something that caught my attention, she said "I believe God gives us all life, should we continue to challenge him on when life begins?". This thought makes an interesting point, and one that people don't really think about. I am not a church goer nor do I read the Bible (I have my own views on that,maybe one day I will share those views with everyone), I do however believe in one source of energy, one supreme being that has to have created us, I mean we would like to think that we were all created from energy and that is all great and what not but where did that energy come from? it has to have a source. Call him or her God, or Goddess, or as I like to call it: Holy Spirit, for the purpose of this I will call him God, and I would like to say my view on this whole issue by answering that small question above.
I believe God created us with many purposes, one of them was to procreate, yes he made a woman and a man and each of us has things the other one needs in order to create a life. Most believe in what we have come accustomed to call free will (I love those two little words), that means we can choose what we want to do with our lives, that means a woman has a choice right?
Well, let's keep going then, when it comes to contraceptives: God created us, modern science has found a way to keep the general population of the world in some sort of control, back when there were only less than a third of the people that are currently living in this world, there was no form of birth control other than abstinence, back then people needed to be born so guess what God made it so that we could not find a way to not procreate, I mean had we had oral contraceptives back then more than likely the world would not be as heavily populated as it is right now, therefore this powerful being made it so that we would not figure out how to stop ourselves from procreating when we wanted to have sexual intercourse with our partners. I mean having sex is a natural thing, is something that men and women both want at some point in their lives and is something we enjoy, if we didn't we would not do it and there would be no need for contraceptives would it?
So, now we have discovered how to enjoy sex without the fear of getting pregnant, let's face it now a days most people don't have the time or the money needed to have more than 2 children, there are lots more things involved, women now work outside the home because two salaries are needed due to the fact that the cost of living has gone up, mostly due to so many people living in this planet; so here is what God did, he gave the idea to someone and allow them to find a way to still be able to have sex without having to add more people to society like it once was. Think about that for one second, if this all mighty God would have wanted us to continue procreating like bunnies, then we would not have found a way to not do it, would we?
This takes me back to that beautiful question and makes me ask myself: are we really challenging God when a woman has an abortion, are we challenging him as to when life really begins? Scientifically a fetus that is 20 weeks old cannot survive outside the womb, mommy is needed for the baby to survive, at 24 weeks the chances of survival are about 2% to 3%, as the baby keeps growing the chances of the fetus surviving become higher; if this supreme being that is God, the one that decides when life begins, had decided that life begins with the first heartbeat then wouldn't the chances of the baby surviving if a woman had it at 19 weeks of pregnancy be 100%? I mean right about now I am seeing it this way: The first few weeks of pregnancy the baby can't survive outside the utero, it cannot survive without being inside the mother's womb, so wouldn't that be God letting us make the choice as to whether we wanted to or not have that baby? wouldn't that be God giving us a chance to see whether we were ready or not to become a mom? Now I am not saying use abortion as a means of contraception, God has allowed us to find a way to enjoy our sexual pleasures without having to bring a life into the world when we don't feel we are yet ready, now this brief period of time when baby is not able to live outside mom's body I am seeing as: if that 1% chance of getting pregnant happened then I have the choice on whether or not I am ready to become a mom, every mom out there knows how hard it is to bring a child to the world, to raise them and provide for them, and yes some will say well that's easy just don't have sex until you get married or don't have sex unless you are willing to get pregnant or have sex and if it happened it is because God wanted that, well I say to them:
1. People are not gonna stop having sex, it is fun and unfortunately people enjoy it way too much to give it up, God made us that way.
2. God has allowed us to take care of ourselves and enjoy ourselves, otherwise we would have never found a way to try and prevent pregnancy.
3. God has already told us when life begins, life begins when a baby is able to survive outside mommy's body, when that chance of survival hits 1% that is when life begins, until then it has not yet begun, and I am a witness to this because 9 years ago my sister's mother, whom I call mom too because she has become like a mother to me in the recent years, had complications with her pregnancy, she went into labor when she was about 20 or 21 weeks pregnant, they tried to keep the baby inside as long as they could, finally a week or so went by and they had to deliver the baby. Mom almost died, and the baby had a 1% survival rate, the doctors all said she was not going to make it, but guess what? she did, she is alive and well today, the road was not an easy one but God decided that she would survive, God had bigger plans for that baby and bigger plans for mom.
So see, are we really challenging God as to when a life begin? I don't think so, there are many reasons why a woman might seek an abortion, again I am not here to judge any of them, they are all allowed to make their choice, whether they decide to have a child or not should be up to them, not anyone else, they should not be judged there is only ONE that will judge us all and we should leave that job only to him.
I am a mom and I am also a woman, I am not saying I would or wouldn't have an abortion, I am saying that given the circumstances I should be allowed to make that decision for myself and if we are going to include God in this dilemma, well, I believe God has giving us a small period of time where we can make that choice.
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